An Ethic of Love: A 28-day Devotion to Love as Practice
28 days of returning, staying, and choosing love
Love is an act of will—intention, choice, and commitment—over and over again.
bell hooks
An Ethic of Love
is the choice to let love guide how we relate—to ourselves, to others, and to the world. It means practicing care, honesty, presence, and responsibility as daily acts, not just ideals. It’s love lived, not just felt.
In this 28-day devotion, we’ll explore what it means to live love.
Not as a concept, but as a series of small, human choices—how we speak to ourselves, how we meet our own needs, how we stay present in discomfort, how we offer care without disappearing. We’ll reflect on topics of self-tending, emotional honesty, boundaries, repair, and embodied presence, all grounded in the understanding that love is something we practice again and again over a lifetime.
Through weekly themes, gentle actions, and daily reflections inside our Telegram space, you’ll be invited to build a relationship with yourself that can hold more truth, softness, and integrity—and from that place, relate to others with more steadiness and heart.
Why This Devotion Exists
“It’s time you have a love affair with yourself, Brandi.”
She didn’t mean it romantically. I knew exactly what she was pointing to—a turning toward myself that I had long postponed. Over time, mentors and trusted friends reflected the same truth: the love I sought elsewhere couldn’t arrive fully until I learned to cultivate it inside.
Facing our own hearts—our own wounds, desires, and needs—often feels harder than staying small, numbing, distracting, or self-abandoning. Love isn’t a one-time achievement. It’s something we practice throughout a lifetime. Even when, especially when, we want to look away.
An Ethic of Love was born from that understanding: a 28-day container to explore what it means to stay with your presence, tenderness, and integrity, and to live love as a daily, ongoing practice.
Outsourcing love happens when we depend on someone else—partner, friend,
family, even social validation—to give us the care, attention,
and acceptance that we haven’t yet cultivated inside.
It can look like:
Waiting for a partner to say the words you long to hear
Relying on someone else’s attention to feel worthy
Seeking validation instead of honoring your own desires
Doing all the “right things” to earn someone else’s love rather than practicing it for yourself
At first, it feels safe. Familiar. Predictable.
But the cost is self-abandonment—setting our own heart and needs aside while waiting for someone else to give us what only we can offer ourselves.
This isn’t a personal failing. We all do this. Love, as practice, is learning to notice the moment we leave ourselves and then choosing to return. Over and over again.
An Ethic of Love invites you to uncover where this shows up and slowly shift it. To practice giving yourself love first, to identify your own needs, and to stay present with your own heart. Not because you shouldn’t love others or because you’re unworthy of receiving love—but because love begins within.
February is often framed as the month of romantic love—hearts, flowers, grand gestures. But this year, we’re practicing love for ourselves first.
How it Works
28 days. Four weeks. One gentle container.
Weekly Themes:
Presence — returning to yourself
Tenderness — befriending your inner world
Choice — honoring boundaries and self-trust
Integration — letting love move through daily life
What’s Included:
Weekly guided practices delivered in a private Telegram group
Daily reflection prompts to slow down and stay present
Integration activities to embody love
Optional supplemental reading from All About Love by bell hooks (see information on bell hooks below)
This isn’t about perfection or completion. It’s about staying. Showing up. Practicing love as a way of being.
Details
Start Date: February 1, 2026
Duration: 28 days
Platform: Private Telegram group
Daily prompts and weekly guidance delivered directly
Flexible—engage at your own comfort level
What You’ll Need:
Telegram app (free)
Journal or notebook for reflections
Your presence, curiosity, and open heart
Investment: $27
If the cost feels like a barrier, I encourage you to reach out. We can discuss options that feel manageable for you. There is no shame in asking for support—this space is for anyone who wants to practice love for themselves, regardless of circumstances.
Join the Community
This 4-week container is a gentle and sacred space. Show up however you can—even if it’s just a few minutes a day.
You’ll be part of a private Telegram group, where community quietly supports the work. You can share reflections, notice patterns, and witness one another’s practice without judgment. Community offers gentle encouragement, accountability, and the reminder that you are not alone in choosing yourself again and again.
Over 28 days, you’ll practice returning to your own presence and holding love as a lived experience. No instructions. No pressure. Just devotion.
Why bell hooks
bell hooks writes about love in a way that feels both grounding and expansive. She doesn’t limit love to romance or partnership—she names it as a practice that begins within and extends outward into our relationships, communities, and the world we’re shaping together.
In All About Love, she reminds us that self-love is not separate from collective healing. When we learn to care for ourselves with honesty, integrity, and tenderness, we become more capable of showing up in relationships—and in society—in ways that are just, compassionate, and whole.
Her work deeply informs this devotion. An Ethic of Love begins with the self, not as an end point, but as a foundation—because tending to our own hearts is part of how we participate in a more loving, healed world.